Thank you for looking at my blog. This is not aimed towards any of my titleholders or any other titleholder in another system directly. These are general statements based on observations from the last few years of things that I think need attention in the pageant world.
***Pageant etiquette rule number 1: commitment***
You just won a pageant! Yay! What are you going to do now?
1. Think of ideas and things you can do with your year as the new titleholder. Community service, your platform, and ways to promote the system you represent
2. Immediately look into the next pageant you can do, ignoring the fact you won a local/state/national/international title with no intention to do anything, or just do things until a “better title” comes along
Which category do you fall into? Unfortunately, I’ve had titleholders in both, who ended up resigning their title with me, and I know many other directors that have too.
I urge anyone, regardless of what system it is you’re competing in or trying to represent, to make sure you know what it is you’re getting into competing. Check the rules prior to signing up and make sure you know what is expected of the winners.
Some pageants are binding, meaning you cannot compete in anything else.
Some are semi binding, like Spirit; you’re allowed to compete in other pageants that aren’t binding but are required to complete a set number of Spirit appearances.
And some are just fun, for example, Spirit holiday or Halloween pageant, glitz pageants, fundraiser pageants etc
Don’t compete for the sake of competing if you don’t intend to follow through with your obligations should you be the winner. Many directors, not just myself, spend too much time planning and working hard for titleholders to just win, take prizes, and ghost out. Make sure you’re honoring your commitments. You interviewed for the “job” so you should follow through with it. You are the winner, while other girls are not, and many would love to be in your shoes.
If you’re someone who just likes competing; There are many other smaller/fun pageants out there if that’s your thing and honestly that’s one of the reasons I started getting into the glitz ones. I enjoy competing. But I’m not going to try and win every crown I see from pageants with commitments because I know I wouldn’t be able to fulfill those duties. And would be deemed a “crown chaser”
Speaking of crown chasing; there are many different definitions to that term but for me I consider it a girl who competes in every pageant they see, with no regard or respect for the directors that put the pageants on nor other contestants who actually want the title.
Don’t get me wrong; I’ve seen people balance titles at the same time before. It can be done, if done correctly. I myself have done that. But it’s all about balancing and giving attention to both. But anyone who tries to rack up state titles and try to do things with 5 titles is selling themselves short, not to mention taking opportunities away from others. If you had an appointed title and then won one, that’s one thing that I know can be balanced, but to win multiple titles without planning to do anything with any of them is another.
At the end of the day, if you’re the winner, you should make the most of it. Most pageants now do have contracts of some sort. Don’t be that girl that took away someone else’s “crowning moment” because you only wanted to win the crown, not the title.
And finally; READ. I can’t tell you how many situations I’ve seen where girls have a title and then sign up for a pageant that’s binding without actually reading its binding, then having to choose between the 2. Read the paperwork and then you won’t have to be in that type of situation.
Moral of the story; there are many many pageants out there. Just make sure to follow through with all your commitments if you join them.
Peace and Pageantry,